Secret of Making Up

When a relationship breaks, two worlds are shattered and at least one in that broken relationship immediately longs for the magic of making up to just happen but of course it does not just happen.

A broken relationship throws your life into the air in a million pieces. All you can do is wait for the pieces to land and then begin to pick them up and put them back together … somehow.

Is that all you can do … wait? Is there something you can do before those pieces start to fall. something that will allow you to catch them before they fall and become irreparable?

The first thing you must do is stand back from the emotions that are churning you to pieces like cream in an electric butter churn. Those emotions will cause you to do all the wrong things .. like getting on the phone and becoming a phone-a-holic till your ex finally just keeps her phone off the hook, or worse yet, changes his number.

Those same emotions may cause you to burn up the email paths, which are most likely immediately deleted on the receiving end.

You may turn into a night stalker … telling yourself you just want to see if she is there as you drive past her house ten times in a half hour.

You may even become that true stalker who sits in your car just out of sight of his house until he leaves … then stealthily follows.

Of course, you may be just the opposite too. You may be so angry that you do not call at all, or emai l… or go anywhere near his house.

You may be on the other end … just waiting for him to call so you can report him as the stalker.

A broken relationship can cause a person to act in ways he never knew was in him …. all negative… for that is what emotions close to the heart do to us when they are betrayed. That is always how we feel when a relationship breaks…. no matter what the reason.

If you are going through a broken relationship … the first thing you need to ask yourself is how serious was this relationship? Was it a fly by night … flash in the pan type? Was it a deep, grounded, mature, more than a fun night on the town type?

Every broken relationship brings about emotions that are so overwhelming we can hardly know what is real. The days dawn in a fog. Every part of life takes a back seat to those emotions… including eating and sleeping and working and everything in between.

If … after stepping back from those emotions .. which is extremely hard to do but a must do for sure … you come to realize that the relationship was not as real and serious as you had imagined … then you are already on the way to healing.

If, however, no matter how hard you try to tell yourself that is the way it was, light and for the moment only, and there is something inside of you telling you otherwise … then perhaps this relationship is something that is very well worth making every effort to mend.

But… how to start? How do you know what to do,. for fear that what you will do will only make the break deeper?

The magic of making up is a delicate thing .. for a broken relationship is a delicate thing and must be treated with care.